”It takes time, introspection, and humility”
I could not have said it better myself.
Introspection takes time because it’s an experience-process. You have to feel the answer, not force it.
Humility is the ability to laugh at our own mistakes, which is crucial when it comes to introspection and adopting a sense of ‘self’.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Learn to laugh, love, and understand that all good things come with time.